That will never happen... you will never be fully content with yourself and your life when you view it through the ego.

Your ego would like you to believe love is complicated.

You have all had moments where you experienced deep love... those moments are difficult to maintain when they are shattered by the arrival of perceived differences, feelings of superiority, judgment, inferiority and separation.

With the arrival of separation, the feeling of love seems to disappear... what has happened to that feeling?

Let's say you meet someone and find yourself enchanted by this person... deep within you something moves... you feel, not just excitement, but a sense of being comfortable, of being safe of being in the presence of something so important and so special that you find yourself willing to share your life with the person you think gives you
those feelings.

When you meet someone whose energy field moves you in such a way, some aspect  of your soul, the God-part of you responds.

In those early days, weeks and months of the relationship that feeling is built upon.

Here is a person you can share everything with... who, from the depths of their being, shares who they are with you.

In the presence of each other, you both find yourselves more forgiving... things that would, in the past, agitate you terribly fade into the background.

When you have this love in your heart you become more allowing, more understanding, more loveable yourself... these are truly magic moments.

This coming together is a moment of recognition, when the possibility arises that there may be one person who will find enough value in you to stay steady in your life thereby, giving you the opportunity to find out who you really are.

Then one day, perhaps without even knowing where it comes from, there arises in your mind a judgment.

'Hmmm,' says the lover about the beloved, 'I don't think I like what is happening... I think it might be a little uncomfortable to live with that characteristic for the rest of my life.'

At this point nothing is said; but the moment that first small judgment comes in, you begin a process that you may be stuck with for the rest of your relationship.

The process is... judgment leads to doubt, which leads to more judgment, which then accumulates over the years.

Of course, the other person is in the same process so at the very earliest stages, this separation begins to arise, and it will continue if nothing comes to break the pattern.

At the start of the relationship, when the soul began to move toward a partnership of deep union, that yearning was so  powerful it was able to silence this judgmental little voice.

But the little voice (ego) is speaking quietly in the background all the time, whispering things like, 'He or she didn't do it right, didn't do it quickly enough; or My beliefs, or family or background are just a little more 'right' than his or hers.'

When this powerful, new love energy wells up, the small, insistent, nagging ego-voice seems to cease... remember this, because this is where your hope lies.

It is possible to begin to silence the ego by getting in touch with how you felt when love first sprang up in your heart.

Most people, however, try to find another person to feel this with instead of trying to find what once was."

I could go on for quite some time with Bartholomew's wisdom on relationships and the role that ego plays in weakening them. Quite frankly, I've just touched the surface on the advice he offers.

In essence, what he is saying is that there is a real purpose behind relationships, especially the romantic kind. That is, in the early stages of romance, we love every thing and every one. All is sacred. We are patient, tolerant, accepting of the other's faults, forgiving and understanding, gentler, kinder, giving, joyful and we become so lovable ourselves.

This is the divine goal of romance; to bring us to an understanding of unconditional love and then being it. Why? Because that is who we really are, Beings of Light, who have forgotten our divine heritage. 

In the process of being unconditional love, the ego slowly recedes into its rightful place within our minds and we awaken more and more to God-centeredness and our true spiritual nature. Then we are free as we were a long, long time ago.

I highly recommend you read the book, Bartholomew, Planetary Brother," pgs. 121-147. It is filled with insights that make so much sense about romantic relationships with others. It not only serves as a blueprint for lasting and fulfilling partnerships, but also explains how we can heal our relationships.