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Relationships
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"Whether
you are conscious of it or not,
you enter into love affairs because
you are seeking God"
Bartholomew
Planetary Brother (1991) |
Dutch/Nederlands
Translation
Do you ever wonder
why we seek to be in a relationship with another? Why do we have this built in
desire to
satisfy that craving? Where did it come from? This urge for coupling is not
something we have to be taught. It comes naturally. And it feels so good. Why? Are we
reacting to some basic animal instinct to increase the numbers of humans
on this planet or is there a more
profound, perhaps divine, reason for it all?
Bartholomew the spirit says we enter relationships because we are
seeking God. What does that mean? It all starts with the soul. Your soul.
That part of
you that is a portion or fragment of All That Is. Being part of God, the soul knows
everything there is to know. It has all
the knowledge it needs.
What the soul really wants, what it is always seeking, is
the experience and feeling of being God. It can only achieve this
through love. Said another way, the feeling of love is our experience of
God, which is
what happens when we "fall in love."
The highest feeling for the soul is to experience Oneness
or perfect love with its Source. Along
the way towards Oneness, it will begin to experience this desire for ultimate
love in
various ways, including relationships with others, romantic or otherwise.
Partnering with another in a profound act of love, and the feelings that derive from it
is the soul's way of discovering that love is the path to the eventual reunion
with All That Is.
There is no doubt that a serious relationship with another plays a big
role in our lives. I'm guessing now, but most of us will probably fall in and out of a
serious love affair 3-6 times throughout our lives. Why does this happen?
Let's start off with the simplest, but most important reason for all relationships,
including romance. We live in a
material universe that is made up of opposites. This concept is based on ancient, mystical
teachings, which tell us that there is an
opposite for everything that exists, including our feelings and emotions.
This is how we
experience the world around us. If we could not make comparisons, we'd never
be able to feel cold or
hot, light or darkness, health or sickness, love or anger, up or down, hatred or
forgiveness, joy or sadness, female or male, and so on.
Our
souls want all experiences possible and the emotions and feelings that go with them, because it
helps the soul find its way back to God. That is what your soul is really up to all the
time. Trying to find and become its Source.
The most important way for us to awaken to the realization of who we really are is through the relationships
we have with others. The purpose of these interactions is to constantly remind us that we are not separate from one
another.
Falling in love is a very profound experience. There is no doubt that it is one of the
most intensely pleasurable feelings we can have. It serves to remind us that love is the
highest emotion we can feel and the grandest experience we can have. We need
to realize that seeking intimate love with another is no different than
seeking it with God. And it is the highest choice we can make.
There are many ways to make relationships as
loving and rewarding as possible. Although they really apply to all
relationships, I have
expressed them below for the romantic kind...
The way to have a lasting and fulfilling
relationship
is to use it for the purpose it was intended...
to be and decide who you really are.
Unconditional love, which contains no judgment, should be the foundation upon which
your relationship is built.
You can't love another
if you don't love yourself.
Expectations are relationship enders.
Another relationship ender is needing someone.
We should not look to
another to fill a void in ourselves. Rather, in a process of mutual
sharing, we should bring a completed sense of self to our partner.
As soon as we need the other, it is an admission
that we are lacking in our own wholeness.
It can also become an obsession, which throws the relationship out of balance.
Never need. It limits and suffocates.
How can we promise to love another
for a lifetime,
if we cannot love ourselves first?
Always be yourself. Never pretend.
If either one of the two partners finds this difficult,
then an imperfection is in need of balancing and healing.
Do not believe that falling in love
will make you happy and end your loneliness. Each of us must try to find happiness,
balance and wholeness within ourselves first. Then we share this inner completion and happiness
with the other.
When a relationship ends, it may have been
entered into for the wrong reasons; or for
the right reasons before ego got in the way.
Jealousy and competition
have no place in a relationship. If it is present, something is
out of balance within the individual and
needs to be healed.
When two people express their undying love
for one another,
that does not mean they own their partner.
Total freedom, not limitation and restraint,
is the key to successful relationships.
Fear-based emotions have no place
in a spiritual relationship.
All sexuality within the relationship
should be used to celebrate the love that exists.
Sexuality can be as passionate as it can be sacred.
Never let a relationship cause you to lose your identity
or sense of Self. Relationships should empower,
since they help to remind us
who we really are.
If you do not love yourself, others,
and your Source
unconditionally,
relationships will be a constant challenge.
Never feel you have to prove your love to the other. Just be yourself,
imperfections and all.
If that's not enough, the relationship will become fragile and out of balance.
All relationships will end when they no longer serve the purpose of spiritual growth. When
that happens,
release each other
with unconditional love
and move on with your lives.
If you do not see one another as two souls on a sacred journey, then the reason for the
relationship
is no longer serving
a spiritual purpose.
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"When we begin to discuss deep, personal relationships,
we are led to talk about unconditional love;
because that is the eventual goal.
And unconditional love cannot be experienced
without help from the Source itself.
With that help, it is possible one day to realize
you have left possessive, dependent love behind."
Bartholomew
Planetary Brother (1991)
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